Friday, March 23, 2012

A Giant Pain....


" Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define YOURSELF."

-Harvey Fierstein

This post is being channeled through a mother of a 12 year old girl who has had a constant migraine since March 5th....it is the 23rd today. You do the math because I'm a mess. Matters of the brain of a nearly teenage girl are complex (an understatement), and when you are attempting to discover the root of chronic gripping cranial pain, every stone gets kicked over. We've been assured that it isn't because of anything life threatening ( thank God), but so far there hasn't been a single medication that has made more than a dent. I want to thank all of the people who have been coming out of the woodwork with suggestions based on what they themselves have done for similar pain....I will listen to anything. Dancing around naked in the moonlight wearing a goat mask, though.....really? It was really cold last night.....

Is it emotional, psychological, are there things going on at school that I don't know about. People can be horrible ( I prefer to use the word' shitty' actually, and I'm really punchy....so there ya go) to one another. Girls are the worst offenders. Boys punch each other in the face....girls are terrorists. Reese is very much an individual ( don't know where she gets it) very strong in her convictions about being her own person. She is very well liked by nearly everyone. To have made it to school two days out of three weeks because you've dragged yourself there, headache and all, and be met by a table full of other 7 th grade girls who used to be friendly to you, having a full on disparaging conversation about you when they are seated right behind you, and you can not figure out how the dynamic changed so drastically while you were away.....Reese says it doesn't matter, but I know it does. She has really big beautiful wings, but wings are funny things. They give you the power to reach great heights, but they are also extremely delicate and easily injured. So, you group of horrible 7th grade girls, I don't believe that you are the cause of my daughter's headaches, because your opinion doesn't hold enough weight with her. But be warned, if this behavior continues, I will go through the proper channels to have all of you verbally punched in the spine ( to coin one of Reese's phases).

We are off to the emergency room right now for the second time in a week....because we have permission....thanks HMO. I'll keep you all posted. Please send up happy thoughts for my wee girl ....

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